Can I get in trouble if I allow the abuser to violate the order?
You cannot be criminally punished for “allowing” the abuser to violate any provision of the PFA order.1 However, the abuser’s attorney could try to hold this against you in court to prove that you are not, in fact, afraid of the abuser if you allow them to ignore the terms of the order without reporting the violation.
1 19-A M.R.S. § 4111(3)