Custody

Mediation is a way to try to resolve a problem without going to trial. A mediator is a trained third party who works with you and the other parent to come to an agreement. You and the other parent would attend one or more sessions with the mediator. Each of you get to explain what you want to happen and why. You also have a chance to respond to each other’s proposals until you hopefully reach an agreement. You have the right to have your lawyer present for the mediation.

If you are able to come to an agreement, the judge will review it. If the judge approves, your agreement will become an enforceable court order.¹ If the judge does not approve it, or if you are not able to reach an agreement, the case may go to trial.

During a divorce or custody and visitation case, the judge may order you and the other parent to take part in mediation. However, you can ask the judge to let you skip (waive) mediation if there is a history of domestic abuse in your relationship.²

¹ Iowa Code § 598.7(4)(a), (4)(c), (4)(d)
² Iowa Code § 598.7(1)